Matchmaking

With a matchmaking help others, marriageable men and women to find a suitable partner for the intended marriage. In most European countries, arranged marriage is now mostly a commercial service, reinforced in recent years on the Internet. A closed through mediation marriage is also known as arranged marriage.

Molding

It used to be a core competency of families to find suitable spouses for their children; worldwide in traditional communities still plays the family in matchmaking a central role. Since intermarriage by marriage end for many families can have a great importance, there have been and in many cultures, as well as in Europe, the discrete sensing and exploratory professional matchmaker / inside ( suitor, wooer, in Eastern Jewry Schadchen ). You could save a bride or a groom -seeking family or to a young man looking for a wife a shame of being a failure.

The matchmaking were also targeted numerous institutions, such as Balls in nobility and bourgeoisie or Sunday promenades on the main street of cities, of which even street names (such as the Jungfernstieg in Hamburg ) attest.

Increasingly With the increasing withdrawal of the families from the matchmaking of their children take over commercial marriage bureaux professional support marriageable people keep their own partner search for little promise or ( for example, because of disappointment or bad experience ) to be too risky. The modern arranged marriage takes place since the turn of the millennium reinforced rather than on the internet. Reputable online partner agencies are directed with their services more and more willing to get married singles.

Definition for forced marriage

In an arranged marriage trust between those willing to marry and matrimonial agencies is crucial for a successful matchmaking. The matchmaker and families need a lot of psychological skills in matchmaking. It is not only a character Royal mating of the couple, but also a suitable social and family environment.

Arranging a marriage does not always lead to the complete satisfaction of all parties. Social pressure and exaggerated or false expectations can overshadow the process, which may affect the objective freedom of choice of the bride and / or groom. Depending on how strong the actual or perceived pressure, also referred to as forced marriage. Since the subject position is clearly detectable in the rarest of cases, there is a gray area here. Much also depends on the willing to marry, as they clearly articulate their ideas about the spouse and yourself aware of their part in the placement process. Of course, there are also clear cases where a bride or groom to be forced into a marriage. However, the subtle difference between forced marriage or not ( so real ) intentional marriage is often not readily apparent. People who do not quite know what they want or are indecisive, risk being more likely to be forced to marry. It then creates a border area, where on the one hand, no clear there is a will, on the other hand, one can not speak of coercion.

Qualification

This does not meant that the bride and groom are not included in the process of matchmaking. If the spouses have no objection, we can talk of an arranged marriage, otherwise it is a forced marriage, which is carried out against the will of the person concerned. From when we can speak of a forced marriage, is in some cases controversial, especially since it is often the case that the person concerned, their bride and her groom indeed can choose from a certain number of suitable " candidates" itself, but as mandatory is that she chooses sometime.

The prerequisite is that celibacy - is hardly or not accepted - especially for girls. So it often happens that the bride or groom are exposed to a certain psychological pressure, or are even forced in rare cases to (finally) to decide, so that the wedding can take place.

The arranged marriage is found in most cultures. In the " western world " but is it today, unlike in the past, very rare. In many South Asian countries, it is still the most common form of marriage, especially in India, Bangladesh, Pakistan and Sri Lanka. From a global perspective is the number of marriages that were arranged, since years back continuously.

Arranged Marriage in the current context

India

In India, arranged marriage still plays a very strong role, even though love marriages, especially in the Indian middle class, which is based more on Western customs are becoming increasingly common. Usually follow arranged marriages traditional caste - practices, whereas love marriages across caste lines can go away. In the urban middle class, it is now common to meet potential spouses within the family short and can thus gain a first impression. Since the meetings are very short, can not be spoken of getting to know here. Is the first impression was negative, the potential candidates have a right of veto, and the parents have to go looking again. In rural areas, a meeting is, however, uncommon here learning about something personal usually limited to the exchange of photos and possibly short letters, about the bride and groom about the others know ( interests, hobbies, etc.).

In the tradition of Indian wedding also the dowry ( Dowry ) plays a central role. It is usual that the father of the bride the groom's family paid (money, jewelry, etc.). Especially when the groom comes from a socially higher-ranking layer, this may be involve huge sums of money (in exceptional cases a multiple of the annual income of the bride's family ). Since the bride's family also hosts the wedding reception ( and paid for ), it also happens time and again that the bride's father ( and his sons ) ruin you financially at a wedding, because the wedding ( the children or sister) for many Indians the most important event in life.

Since it always comes back to so-called dowry deaths, when the bride's family to the negotiated price can not pay in full, the Indian Government has banned the numbers of dowry ( Dowry Prohibition Act 1961).

The numbers of dowry exists in all castes and classes of India. Especially in the rural population and the less educated, however, the payment of a dowry (sometimes connected to the blatant demand thereof) still the rule rather than the exception.

Ireland

In Ireland every year takes place the traditional Lisdoonvarna Matchmaking Festival in the fall. Originally found there every year farmers have to go on the edge of the large cattle market with the help of professional matchmaker looking for a wife. Today, several thousand singles attend the festival, there to find a partner for life. The third generation as " Matchmaker" extremely successful Willie Dally has been supported since 2013 by the fourth generation of his daughter, which connects through the Internet tradition and modern technology.

Japan

Terms of Use

According to German private law is in the payment of this service, the " Ehemäklerlohn ", because of the highly personal nature of traditional marriage mediation, unlike ordinary services to a natural obligation: Your payment can indeed procedurally not enforced by the marriage broker, the customer but subsequently also not be recoverable. For this reason, the advance payment is the rule in these contracts.

However, it can also be the offense of fraud, where the intermediary from the outset the intention entertained, not to provide the contracted power and to retain only the advance. A claim for repayment of the customers of the Ehemäklers can also arise from other legal grounds. This allows the customer after a termination pursuant to § 627 BGB from Ehemäkler according to § 628 BGB require that this retains only the proportionate share attributable to its already completed activities reward and repay the rest. Is the Ehemäklervertrag reasons such as abuse of a predicament or because of exorbitant prices, immoral within the meaning of § 138 BGB, the customer may - how the Oberlandesgericht Dusseldorf decided - according to the principles of unjust enrichment § claim 812 BGB repayment. The same applies if a right of withdrawal according to § 355 BGB, be it because of a distance selling business, it was because of a door- it was because of a consumer Darlehns granted in the form of a deferred payment.

Criticism

For professional matchmaker in Germany on the basis of regularly uncovered cases of fraud and one side on generating revenue - for example, by excessive fees - the customer unfavorable contractual terms or pretense of a contract through the agency of " partners " who work for the brokerage and a priori no relationship Search for the customer, a bad reputation.

In teaching women from poorer sections of the population of Asian countries and Russia, the marriage bureau may pass into illegal trafficking in certain cases. Serious working company which is inconvenient. The so-called Catalogue marriage is not meant.

Artistic treatment

A well-known artistic treatment of the topic is in Central Europe, the opera " The Bartered Bride " by Bedrich Smetana.